MayAGA Day 20: Wink and a Nod

I have been wearing my MAGA hat everywhere I go for about 20 days now. When I first started this challenge it was awkward to put that hat on my head and go out of the house. I worried about what others would think or do when they saw it.

So far that worry has been unfounded and those who comment on the hat have been positive. Now I put the hat on my head and forget that I am wearing it. The places and people I see frequently seem to not notice anymore. It has become common place.

Nothing really exciting has happened and that is why I have not had anything to write about. Honestly that is exactly what I wanted to happen.

A Wink and a Nod

I was out walking the dog when I noticed an elderly lady working in her yard. She saw me down the street and walked toward me.

 

At first I was a bit nervous, not because I was worried about this lady but because my dog has a bad habit of jumping and he is a big dog. She approached me and from a safe distanced asked if she could pet my dog.

I explained to her if he starts to whine or get nervous then the answer is no, but if he is okay with it than yes. She put her hand out, he smelled it and immediately leaned against her for some pets. She loved on him for a minute, getting her fur fix she said, and we talked about dogs.

At the end of the conversation she leaned in and looked up at me sideways and said “By the way I like your hat.” Of course I smiled and said thank you and she went back to her friend to continue working in the yard.

The next instance was at a local Albertsons. I was walking through the store and as usual I could tell people noticed the hat but were largely going about their business. I passed an employee who was talking with another customer but I could tell his eyes followed me for a second longer than usual.

I brushed it off as him just thinking I might need help. I was looking for a product I did not know exactly where it was, so I figured he picked up on my lost expression. A few seconds later I heard he call to me from behind.

“Excuse me sir.” He said standing by the door leading to the back of the store. I turned and looked back and as we made eye contact he said “I like your hat.” I again smiled big and said thank you. He nodded and went back to work in the back of the store.

Silent Support

These two instances are not the only time someone has commented on my hat. I have not had anyone get upset, just positive feedback. I took some time to think about those encounters and what they meant.

In each of those encounters the comment was made in a public space but was meant to be a private conversation. It was almost as if they said they supported the hat but did not want to wear one themselves. Or that they were thankful that someone was doing something they wanted to do but felt they could not.

Before I took on this challenge I felt the same way. In fact I probably would have been one of those people who gave a quick positive comment in passing if I had seen someone in a MAGA hat.

I have often wondered why people felt they had to stay silent. For the most part I think people just want to avoid conflict. For me I left a very real social pressure that being Republican, Conservative or wearing a MAGA hat made me a bad person.

I knew Conservatives, Republicans and people that wore MAGA hats and they were perfectly normal, regular, good people. They worked hard, loved their families, and helped their neighbors. So why should these good people feel ashamed to be themselves?

I do not have the answer to that question outside of social pressure. Thankfully I have spent most my life being socially awkward and have had to build up an inner strength that can stand against social pressure when needed.

Even with this practice I had a hard time taking that step. But if my experience is any indication the only thing that holds people back from taking that step is themselves.

If you want to wear a MAGA hat or get involved with the Republican Party, do so. Go to a meet up or join a Facebook group (Here are a couple groups I am a member of Oregon Republican League, Young Republican’s of Washington County). Check it out, talk to people, and make the choice that is best for you.

Thanks for reading and hope you all are having a great MayAGA!

MayAGA Day 1: A Good Start

Today is the first day of May and the start of MayAGA. This is the challenge for individuals to wear a MAGA hat every day in the month of May everywhere they go. It is not a march or rally but rather a demonstration that there are normal everyday people, some are your friends and neighbors, who are Republican, conservative and/or supporters of President Trump.

It is not an attempt to trigger or upset people but to show that you refuse to believe the hype of the media about how bad the world is and to say that you will refuse to allow your choices to be dictated by those who are willing to use violence and social pressure to silence you.

The First Step

After a lot of thought and reflection I decided that I would try wearing the MAGA hat for the whole month. I wrote a couple blog posts about it, clarifying my thoughts and intentions, and waited for May to arrive.

I would be lying if I said I was not nervous. Chief among my fears was that I would create more problems than I was trying to solve. I worried about how others would react to my choice. The media narratives did have an impact on me, but I had thought it through and steeled myself as I placed my MAGA hat on my head and walked out the door.

As I started my car my mind started to race with the uncertainties the day held for me. As I approached the grocery store I realized that this would be the first interaction. How would it go? Would anything bad happen? Would anyone even care? I hoped for the last one.

Early Morning Surprise

The store was mostly empty and I held my head up and looked forward, set on getting what I needed for breakfast and snacks for work. I grabbed a couple apples and oranges and some yogurt and headed to the register.

At this point I walked passed a few people but nothing happened. I placed my items on the belt as the cashier spoke to the person ahead of me. The cashier grabbed my items and started to scan them when she looked up to greet me.

I smile and stepped forward, more calm in my actions than in my mind. She said good morning and smile back at me. I moved over to the debt card machine and that is when she noticed the hat. A red hat with white letters causes people to take a second look.

To my surprise the cashier just nodded and said “Good for you!” We both knew she was talking about my hat and I grinned.

“Thanks.” I said as I put my card into the debt machine “I figured if I want to wear it I should be able to.” She agreed with me and asked where I got my MAGA hat. I told her I had to buy it online and that it was very reasonably priced. She told me that her husband was looking to buy one too.

We completed our transaction and wished each other a good day. I smiled as I walked to my car, seems I was worked up for nothing. Now on to the next challenge, time to go to work.

Work Day

I work for a small company and knew most everyone and thought things would be pretty safe but sometime you never know. I walked into work and punched the time clock and headed to my desk. The first few hours no one noticed a thing, I looked at my emails, did some work, and got my morning cup of coffee.

I had told a few people that I was going to wear my MAGA hat for the month of May, but saying it and showing up are two very different things. Slowly, as more people arrived, people started to notice.

At first it came in the form of second glances. Than people laughed, not at me but in that way you laugh when you are excited or interested in something. A few people complemented me, some were a little surprised that I was actually wearing a MAGA hat publicly, and one person made a joke about it.

Even the joke was lighthearted and my experience was positive. It was a bit uncomfortable at first to realize that I was drawing attention to myself, but that wore off and everyone got back to their work.

I went out to lunch, taco bell (there goes my diet), with no problem and returned to work to finish out my day. One of my coworkers, on his lunch break, created a meme for MayAGA (Picture at the top of the article).

Making the Leap

I started the day a bit nervous about what was in store for me. As I went forward with fortitude and prudence I realized that the media and online hype was just that, hype.

I understand that this was just one day but so far everything has been positive. It was a bit uncomfortable knowing that people will look at you twice, but I understood that by wearing the MAGA hat I was inviting people to comment and talk to me.

In fact that was the point, I wanted people to talk to me and realize that just because someone wears a MAGA hat, supports President Trump or has different ideas does not mean that they are a bad person.

I would recommend people who want to take part in MayAGA to do so. But I would also recommend they examine their reason for doing so. If you just want to piss people off, do not do it.

But if you have used sound reasoning and moral wisdom and understand that you will face social scrutiny, a hostile media, and are willing to accept that you will be used as a representation of everyone who wears a MAGA hat and that your every word and action are important and must be chosen carefully, than please join me in taking part in MayAGA.

Wearing a MAGA Hat: Foolhardy or Courageous

I was doing a YouTube live stream when a thought came to me. What would happen if a bunch of people wore Make America Great Again (MAGA) hats without going to a protest or march but just in their everyday lives?

Often times a story will make the rounds in the media that someone in a MAGA hat did something bad. Sometimes these stories are pure fabrication, such as the instance of the Covington kids, drummed up by big media companies desperate to stay relevant. Other times they are legitimate people doing bad things while wearing a MAGA hat.

On the other side you will also see stories of people being harassed, assaulted, or discriminated against for simply wearing a MAGA hat. It is these stories, about the fringe people in our society, that forms most people’s opinions of someone wearing a MAGA hat.

This realization led me to ask the question, what if regular people wear MAGA hats and go about their lives as normal? What if people have regular everyday interaction with someone in a MAGA hat that is not only calm and peaceful but pleasant?

What would happen if regular people wore MAGA hats for a whole month?

The Idea

I first pitched the idea to a group engaged in spreading the ideas of liberty. It was received well but ultimately turned down due to requirements around their non-profit status. Next I spoke with individuals within that group who would be interested in working on this project on the side.

My idea was to promote the idea of getting people to wear MAGA hats for a whole month and just go about their daily lives. After some discussion we thought it would be a good idea to include an activity that each individual could do to Make America Great Again. This could be anything from improving your own personal life (stop smoking, clean your room) to volunteering at or organizing a charitable event.

The reasoning behind this idea was that if you want America to be Great than you need to adopt the responsibility of making it so. These acts could be shared (but don’t have to be) under the #makingamericagreatagain.

The Problem

The problem with this idea was that my friends and I had no real way of promoting it to a wide audience nor did we have the time necessary to get everything rolling. I wrote a blog post outlining the general rules and ideas and encouraged engagement but it got lost in the internet shuffle.

I created a few memes but they did not take off. We came up with the name March MAGAness (a play on March Madness) but decided that we needed more time to generate interest in the idea and participation. We moved it to May and came up with the name MayAGA.

Again we all had full time jobs as well as other obligations (family, non-profits, and live streams) that we had to attend to. The idea did not catch on. People thought it was either an interesting idea or a crazy idea. I was told that it was stupid because it opens you up to being assaulted or that it put you in danger.

I took those criticisms to heart and almost gave up the idea at that time. It was then that I made a choice. I admitted to myself that I did not have a big reach and that I might not be able to promote this idea well but there was one thing that I could do.

I could do it myself.

My Experiment

I have made the choice that I will wear my MAGA hat for the month of May. I will wear it around the house, when I go around town, and while at work. Part of me is worried about what will happen but I did not come to this choice improperly.

I asked myself hard questions and gave myself honest answers. Am I just wearing the MAGA hat to trigger people? No, while the hat may upset some people that is not my reasoning behind wearing it. I am wearing it because I want to say that I will not be intimidated into keeping silent. I will not be told what I can and cannot wear or what I have to say.

Will I take the hat off? No. I will not be hostile about it but I will refuse to take it off unless I make the choice to do so. I will not allow the government nor the mob to intimidate me into doing something that I don’t want to do.

I asked myself these and other questions but ultimately I made the choice to wear my MAGA hat for the month of May. I live in Oregon, near ‘Progressive Portland’ and I know that I will face challenges for doing this. I also have confronted the idea that this might either be foolhardy or courageous.

But I have determined to try and walk that line.

Happy MayAGA everyone, I’ll let you know how it goes.